Comments for Tortured Pineapple http://www.torturedpineapple.com Stranger in a Strange Land Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:26:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 Comment on Loved & Lost by greg http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=49#comment-268 greg Wed, 04 Feb 2009 00:20:23 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=49#comment-268 I am elated you are blogging again. Love is scary and I completely understand not wanting to admit that you truly loved him. To me, admitting it is almost like the kiss of death. You are such a beautiful person and you deserve to be completely head over heals....and I do too. So far, I am on the right track and you are too. You love yourself first and that is the most important thing <3 Greg I am elated you are blogging again. Love is scary and I completely understand not wanting to admit that you truly loved him. To me, admitting it is almost like the kiss of death. You are such a beautiful person and you deserve to be completely head over heals….and I do too. So far, I am on the right track and you are too. You love yourself first and that is the most important thing

<3 Greg

]]> Comment on Self Exploration by Princess http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=24#comment-188 Princess Wed, 19 Nov 2008 04:10:49 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=24#comment-188 Hey there, I came by tonight with excellent timing. I am glad that Alex has found someone and send my best to you and Buckley and Alex and Halo. I was reading this post as well as your new one and it struck me as odd how someone so beautiful as you could wonder how the world sees you, but I understand as I often wonder the same thing. I wonder who I am and if I make sense to anyone else on this planet. Am I unique or special or am I another person in the sea of millions who wants to be special and unique. Do you settle or do you go for broke, what are the limits and where will you end up. What I know is that I don't give myself credit for my success and tend to focus on my failures and that I am interesting to most. I think about the roles that I play and I am not defined by any one perspective, I am a student, a manager, a wife, an employee and a problem solver. I am a woman who wants a glass of wine most nights and an occasional night out with patron. I love to laugh and I love people. My christmas wish lists consists of a gun, an expensive bottle of perfume and some loving. I love politics, outdoors, arguing, making love to my husband and people who offer a challenge. I have no patience for bullshit, drama or stupidity. I am a strong Christian, but believe in rights for gays and that society shouldn't make abortion illegal. I wish that racism were no more, but believe that all races have to acept and acknowledge the problems that are prevelant to their race and/or culture; lets face it these executives who are costing the tax payers billions are pretty much 99% anglo. I can be a bitch or your best friend and it will depend on what I think you deserve. In my life I want to be a great mother, wife and business woman. I believe in standing up for what is right but may own a slightly skewed but rational to me perspective. I want success, but above all I want love and joy. I am who I am and I can be a complilation of mismatched items if I so choose, never be affraid to try something new, love who you are completely and don't ever think that any one item can define the complete person who you are. Please discover the beautiful person that people get to see when they look at you. I suggest you make your list, I am surprised at times when I compare what I think I want to be with what my actual values are. But above all, take my word that you are wonderful and that anyone who is so lucky to be in your life is blessed to know you. I couldn't tell you exactly who I am or where I am going to end up, but I will tell you that the more that I realize who I am the more I enjoy the trip that we call life. Live it up, love it up and live for the day today, but leave no regrets or ill will for tomorrow. Take care dear friend. Hey there, I came by tonight with excellent timing. I am glad that Alex has found someone and send my best to you and Buckley and Alex and Halo. I was reading this post as well as your new one and it struck me as odd how someone so beautiful as you could wonder how the world sees you, but I understand as I often wonder the same thing. I wonder who I am and if I make sense to anyone else on this planet. Am I unique or special or am I another person in the sea of millions who wants to be special and unique. Do you settle or do you go for broke, what are the limits and where will you end up. What I know is that I don’t give myself credit for my success and tend to focus on my failures and that I am interesting to most. I think about the roles that I play and I am not defined by any one perspective, I am a student, a manager, a wife, an employee and a problem solver. I am a woman who wants a glass of wine most nights and an occasional night out with patron. I love to laugh and I love people. My christmas wish lists consists of a gun, an expensive bottle of perfume and some loving. I love politics, outdoors, arguing, making love to my husband and people who offer a challenge. I have no patience for bullshit, drama or stupidity. I am a strong Christian, but believe in rights for gays and that society shouldn’t make abortion illegal. I wish that racism were no more, but believe that all races have to acept and acknowledge the problems that are prevelant to their race and/or culture; lets face it these executives who are costing the tax payers billions are pretty much 99% anglo. I can be a bitch or your best friend and it will depend on what I think you deserve. In my life I want to be a great mother, wife and business woman. I believe in standing up for what is right but may own a slightly skewed but rational to me perspective. I want success, but above all I want love and joy. I am who I am and I can be a complilation of mismatched items if I so choose, never be affraid to try something new, love who you are completely and don’t ever think that any one item can define the complete person who you are. Please discover the beautiful person that people get to see when they look at you. I suggest you make your list, I am surprised at times when I compare what I think I want to be with what my actual values are. But above all, take my word that you are wonderful and that anyone who is so lucky to be in your life is blessed to know you. I couldn’t tell you exactly who I am or where I am going to end up, but I will tell you that the more that I realize who I am the more I enjoy the trip that we call life. Live it up, love it up and live for the day today, but leave no regrets or ill will for tomorrow. Take care dear friend.

]]> Comment on Your Thoughts by Alex http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?page_id=29#comment-72 Alex Wed, 23 Jul 2008 02:09:52 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?page_id=29#comment-72 Its funny how judgmental people can be when faced with a choice that is out of the bounds of the social norm we all know as monogamy. Most of us are practicing some form of serial monogamy and I don't have a problem with it, or at least I don't have any issue with the methodology of it. Trial and error is something I'm quite familiar with. The goal of monogamy, however is somewhat ridiculous to me. Find the perfect mate, and live happily ever after. It turns into serial monogamy for the vast majority of people that it doesn't work for. Take a look at the divorce rate in this country. This judgmental attitude that I speak of is directed at the polyamorous. Polyamory is based on honesty, openness, and mother fucking reality. I'm one of those people. I'm proud of it, but I can't come right out and just tell people about it either. The level of hostility that I deal with over this subject is completely insane. I'd be way better off just telling people that I cheat on my wife, so this isn't about doing something because it's simple or easy. We do it because we love life and we're never gonna stop living it to its fullest. We don't cut each other off from lifes experiences and revel in each others happiness regardless of the source. You can't be absolutely everything for someone. People need outside influences and experiences to grow. A friend of mine once asked me, "Why is it okay to say you hate a whole group of people, and not okay to say that you love more than one person?". Okay. I feel better now. Sorry if that came across as hostile but thats what happens when you deal with the shit I've been going through. Its funny how judgmental people can be when faced with a choice that is out of the bounds of the social norm we all know as monogamy. Most of us are practicing some form of serial monogamy and I don’t have a problem with it, or at least I don’t have any issue with the methodology of it. Trial and error is something I’m quite familiar with. The goal of monogamy, however is somewhat ridiculous to me. Find the perfect mate, and live happily ever after. It turns into serial monogamy for the vast majority of people that it doesn’t work for. Take a look at the divorce rate in this country.

This judgmental attitude that I speak of is directed at the polyamorous. Polyamory is based on honesty, openness, and mother fucking reality. I’m one of those people. I’m proud of it, but I can’t come right out and just tell people about it either. The level of hostility that I deal with over this subject is completely insane. I’d be way better off just telling people that I cheat on my wife, so this isn’t about doing something because it’s simple or easy. We do it because we love life and we’re never gonna stop living it to its fullest. We don’t cut each other off from lifes experiences and revel in each others happiness regardless of the source. You can’t be absolutely everything for someone. People need outside influences and experiences to grow.

A friend of mine once asked me, “Why is it okay to say you hate a whole group of people, and not okay to say that you love more than one person?”.

Okay. I feel better now. Sorry if that came across as hostile but thats what happens when you deal with the shit I’ve been going through.

]]> Comment on Getting my life situated by Lisa http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=30#comment-67 Lisa Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:12:25 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=30#comment-67 Tortured Pineapple, I’m an intern at Tango Media, a website dedicated to the topics surrounding love and relationships. While I was searching the web for bloggers interested in the idea of polyamory and open relationships, I came across your blog Tortured Pineapple: A Stranger in a Strange Land, specifically the post Getting My Life Situated. I admire how you put your life and relationships on the table for the world to see without the worries of skepticism and judgments from readers who refuse to have an open mind. Your standpoint and openness on the alternative to a monogamous marriage/relationship leaves me to believe that you would be interested in what Tango has to offer. The links that I am attaching are two columns dedicated to these alternative relationships and are updated weekly by two bloggers. Marriage Without Monogomy Blog (updated every two weeks) http://www.tangomag.com/marriage-without-monogamy Open Up (updated weekly) http://www.tangomag.com/open-marriage-blog I hope that you welcome and enjoy what Tango has to offer. If you have any comments, questions, or if you are interested in posting this link on your blog, please don’t hesitate to contact me at lisa@tangomag.com. Additionally, please feel free to forward me any links/sites you know of that Tango might be interested in covering. Tortured Pineapple,

I’m an intern at Tango Media, a website dedicated to the topics surrounding love and relationships. While I was searching the web for bloggers interested in the idea of polyamory and open relationships, I came across your blog Tortured Pineapple: A Stranger in a Strange Land, specifically the post Getting My Life Situated. I admire how you put your life and relationships on the table for the world to see without the worries of skepticism and judgments from readers who refuse to have an open mind. Your standpoint and openness on the alternative to a monogamous marriage/relationship leaves me to believe that you would be interested in what Tango has to offer. The links that I am attaching are two columns dedicated to these alternative relationships and are updated weekly by two bloggers.

Marriage Without Monogomy Blog (updated every two weeks)
http://www.tangomag.com/marriage-without-monogamy
Open Up (updated weekly)
http://www.tangomag.com/open-marriage-blog

I hope that you welcome and enjoy what Tango has to offer. If you have any comments, questions, or if you are interested in posting this link on your blog, please don’t hesitate to contact me at lisa@tangomag.com. Additionally, please feel free to forward me any links/sites you know of that Tango might be interested in covering.

]]> Comment on Your Thoughts by Bombi http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?page_id=29#comment-66 Bombi Tue, 03 Jun 2008 20:53:33 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?page_id=29#comment-66 man...why have I not read this more often. You rule! man…why have I not read this more often. You rule!

]]> Comment on Love by Dameon http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=25#comment-11 Dameon Sun, 27 Apr 2008 02:40:49 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=25#comment-11 Attraction by smell : I completely agree to that. I have a very sensitive semse of smell, and If I'm dating a girl sometimes she just doesn't smell quite right. If that happens I hit a block, and can't continue further int he relationship emotionally. Its not a normal smell, like if she's back from the gym or wearing perfume, but underneath that, and her shampoo, and her soap, and the smell of her clothes, hidden under those layers is another smell, difficult to describe by any other term than Pheremones. If her pheremones match well with me, then I'm set to pursue a relationship. If not..... Then it's out of my hands, we weren't meant to be i guess. Attraction by smell : I completely agree to that. I have a very sensitive semse of smell, and If I’m dating a girl sometimes she just doesn’t smell quite right. If that happens I hit a block, and can’t continue further int he relationship emotionally. Its not a normal smell, like if she’s back from the gym or wearing perfume, but underneath that, and her shampoo, and her soap, and the smell of her clothes, hidden under those layers is another smell, difficult to describe by any other term than Pheremones. If her pheremones match well with me, then I’m set to pursue a relationship. If not….. Then it’s out of my hands, we weren’t meant to be i guess.

]]> Comment on Self Exploration by Dameon http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=24#comment-10 Dameon Sun, 27 Apr 2008 02:24:56 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=24#comment-10 I know that my opinion cannot change your fundamental self-image, but for what its worth I was totally stricken by how beautiful you are when I first met you. I was enamoured by the time we met up for the movie and lunch and coffee. You have no reason to be jealous of anyone. If other girls are more "glamorous" in your eye, remember that you are more "comfortable" in theirs. You have a natural beauty that glam girls have to work very hard to compete with, and can only do so with makeup and clothes. I soemtime's have the same self-image issues. But it helps to know that there are people that I know that find me very attractive. Hope it helps... :) I know that my opinion cannot change your fundamental self-image, but for what its worth I was totally stricken by how beautiful you are when I first met you. I was enamoured by the time we met up for the movie and lunch and coffee. You have no reason to be jealous of anyone. If other girls are more “glamorous” in your eye, remember that you are more “comfortable” in theirs. You have a natural beauty that glam girls have to work very hard to compete with, and can only do so with makeup and clothes.

I soemtime’s have the same self-image issues. But it helps to know that there are people that I know that find me very attractive.

Hope it helps… :)

]]> Comment on Jumbled views on society & poly relationships by Dameon http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=22#comment-6 Dameon Sat, 12 Apr 2008 22:09:06 +0000 http://www.torturedpineapple.com/?p=22#comment-6 The "average" woman has much less leeway on physical looks than the "average" man, who has a wider degree of variation before being considered less-than-average or even overweight or ugly. Just as ancient greece had statues of the female form as well, there is also a small sub-group lauding the male form. Male models are an example, though a large cross section of them shows a tendancy towards androgyny rather than delving into the male aspect entirely. I see where you're going though, and for the most part I agree. Those males who explore the male form to its natural extreme, aka bodybuilders, are derided as disgusting and monstrous. Personally, I feel like I fit in the "other" category in male self-image. I take an interest in my body-image and I like having the girl I'm seeing help me shop for new clothes that flatter my build. I don't accept society's view on "average", but I don't consider myself "Metrosexual" in any way. The “average” woman has much less leeway on physical looks than the “average” man, who has a wider degree of variation before being considered less-than-average or even overweight or ugly.

Just as ancient greece had statues of the female form as well, there is also a small sub-group lauding the male form. Male models are an example, though a large cross section of them shows a tendancy towards androgyny rather than delving into the male aspect entirely.

I see where you’re going though, and for the most part I agree. Those males who explore the male form to its natural extreme, aka bodybuilders, are derided as disgusting and monstrous.

Personally, I feel like I fit in the “other” category in male self-image. I take an interest in my body-image and I like having the girl I’m seeing help me shop for new clothes that flatter my build. I don’t accept society’s view on “average”, but I don’t consider myself “Metrosexual” in any way.

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