It’s been an eventful month. The run away train I have been on has seemed to found its way onto a comfortable new track. I feel stabilized again. I am in my first week of my new job. I am feeling calm and have started to explore the dating scene.

I decided that in order to speed up the process I would post a personal ad online. My first thought was Craigslist and assumed that “like-minded” people would have had that same thought. I started out with a singles ad looking for an “open relationship”. I got quite a few responses and only a handful of qualified people. I started emailing a couple guys back and forth and setting up times to meet. I meet with 3 different men. Two of the three were only interested in swinging. And the other was Dameon. He is involved in a Poly group and invited me & Alex to one of their coffee breaks. It was nice. We hung out all evening with about 15 poly couples and singles. We got to ask some of our nagging questions and hear about others journeys. I was already well read on the philosophy of polyamory so we fit right in. It was very insightful.

One of my biggest hindrances at the time I went to this meeting was jealousy. I was trying to comprehend compersion. The group lead, Vallori, was there with both of her boyfriends. It was wonderful seeing them together. One of her boyfriends was talking to Alex and me about something (wasn’t paying attention) because his girlfriend was making out with her other boyfriend right next to us and he didn’t even flinch. I knew he could see them. It did not bother him, it didn’t even effect him. Their story and her blogg have really helped me understand how unnecessary and harmful jealousy is. I have been to another of their Poly Coffee’s and really enjoy their company. The meeting displayed what I had been researching and made it real to me.

So, the second time I decided to post an ad I decided to be open & honest about it. I mentioned being in a long term relationship and wanting to date after a decade of monogamy. This time I received dozen’s of responses, most of them were bull shit, but I received several quality responses. I have been chatting back and forth with a handful of them. I even went out for drinks with a couple. I didn’t really click the way I wanted to with any of them. I reposted the same ad to get a new pool of candidates and met a great catch. We have hung out a couple times and I have had a blast with him.

I am dating now. It is going very smoothly. Alex is curious and is being so sweet about the whole thing. I enjoy his interest in my life and my growth. I am also in a job I, finally, think I will enjoy. After two months of job searching I decided to let someone else do the searching. I contacted a staffing agency and expressed my interest in getting into human resources. I was looking for a bit of career counseling to see if I could even get into that field with the experience I have. She had me in for an interview and offered me a job in her office before I left that afternoon. It is a small boutique firm and it would only be her and I. It is also well established, she has been doing career placement in Big City for 25 years. Since I had never considered being a recruiter she had me sit in (paid) for a week and see what I thought. And I think it is going to be good for me. I am excited about it and I am excited about my new crush. Life is definitely on a new track. Where it is heading is a mystery and I have never felt more in control.