He choose to avoid the topic over the weekend.  Later on that week we had planned to speak before going to bed and make plans for the weekend.  No call came and since it was getting late I decided to text him to see if he was still up.  Half an hour later he wrote back “I’m telling Jane about you so I might be a while”.  I was so shocked the blood rushed away from my skin, I turned white as a ghost.  I was overwhelmed with excitement for me and terror for what Buckley & Jane were going through.  I know they both love each other.  Buckley and I are both highly non-confrontational so I knew what he was doing needed a stronger force to undertake. It is true that they cant be together for a multitude of reasons.  They live in different states, fight constantly (he tells me) and have different plans for the future.  But, it is obvious now that part of the driving force for him to end things with her was me.

Through the next hour of waiting for his call I as anxious, but not scared.  I couldn’t wait to hear what they said.  Did they talk about polyamory?  When it was first presented to me, I thought there would be no way I could accept it.  But I cared enough about our relationship to look a little further into it.  What else could they have talked about? Turns out, quite a bit.  The message read exactly how it meant: he was telling Jane about me.  He hadn’t before told her about me. period. I was shocked; yet I found it quite classic Buckley.  She was pissed and embarrassed.  She had just spent the last weekend hanging out with his friends, seeing his band and playing a girlfriend role, not knowing that she was the weekend fling.

Over the next three days I got to be the fling.  We had one night where just the two of us went out for cheap Chinese food and hung out after at our favorite hole-in-the-wall bar.  Saturday night we got together with Alex and Halo and had a barbecue at the house.  I felt really relaxed and it seemed to me that everyone else was having a great time.  After Alex & Halo left for the night, Buckley and I rode our bikes down to a local bar.  It was great to be able to drink with him.  I am always the designated driver.  That night I got to get a little silly and we had a great time together.  And then I got to see him play on Sunday.  Which is always an amazing treat.  He is so talented.

I am sorry if Jane and Buckley loose their relationship.  It is an awful situation.  I would be absolutely devastated.  I suppose when you know you cant make everyone happy it is easier to make the decision that is best for you.  I am grateful that the path he has decided on includes me.  I am happy just to have more time to get to know him and for him to get to know me.  It seems strange saying that after dating someone for six months.  I wish it was easier for us to open up to each other.  But, I’m a patient person and it doesn’t look like Buckley is going anywhere.