Stranger in a Strange Land
Please use this page to freely write your thoughts, experiences, advice or absolutely anything you would like to. Any questions? Any encouragement? Any criticism? Anything you feel like. I don’t want this blog to be one sided. Thank you Dameon for leaving comments :) Anyone else have anything to say? I would love to hear your thoughts.
A deliberation of open thought.
Bombi
June 3rd, 2008 at 3:53 pm
man…why have I not read this more often. You rule!
Alex
July 22nd, 2008 at 9:09 pm
Its funny how judgmental people can be when faced with a choice that is out of the bounds of the social norm we all know as monogamy. Most of us are practicing some form of serial monogamy and I don’t have a problem with it, or at least I don’t have any issue with the methodology of it. Trial and error is something I’m quite familiar with. The goal of monogamy, however is somewhat ridiculous to me. Find the perfect mate, and live happily ever after. It turns into serial monogamy for the vast majority of people that it doesn’t work for. Take a look at the divorce rate in this country.
This judgmental attitude that I speak of is directed at the polyamorous. Polyamory is based on honesty, openness, and mother fucking reality. I’m one of those people. I’m proud of it, but I can’t come right out and just tell people about it either. The level of hostility that I deal with over this subject is completely insane. I’d be way better off just telling people that I cheat on my wife, so this isn’t about doing something because it’s simple or easy. We do it because we love life and we’re never gonna stop living it to its fullest. We don’t cut each other off from lifes experiences and revel in each others happiness regardless of the source. You can’t be absolutely everything for someone. People need outside influences and experiences to grow.
A friend of mine once asked me, “Why is it okay to say you hate a whole group of people, and not okay to say that you love more than one person?”.
Okay. I feel better now. Sorry if that came across as hostile but thats what happens when you deal with the shit I’ve been going through.